Monday, May 11, 2015

Let's All Shame The Word Shaming

As writers, we know that words are always changing and evolving, sometimes for the better, often for the worse. And we know that in the age of the Internet it's happening faster than you and bae can take a selfie that's on fleek.

Today we want to talk to you about a word that's been taking angry Internet amoebas by storm lately: "shaming." A word that's changed so much and been beaten to death so much over the past year or two that it's almost lost all meaning. Now, most of you probably know it as 'to cause someone to feel ashamed', but for those of you wondering what it means now, we have the actual dictionary definition pasted below.


See, once upon a time ago, shaming meant bullying. But now it's being used everywhere for everything, as a way of inserting politically correct bullshit where it doesn't belong. And since the word itself apparently just wasn't specific enough, there are now subsects of shaming. Like, there's "fat-shaming." Which initially started as a term for rudely and needlessly bullying heavyset people... but now just means that you can't say anything about an overweight person at all. Even if it's a medical fact.




That term evolved (devolved?) into "body-shaming." Now, no one can say anything about anyone's body at all without someone getting wildly offended, no matter what size or shape you are. And it doesn't matter if you aren't even a part of the goddamned conversation to begin with.





Now even just being proud of your own body makes you an asshole. You have the discipline to work out every day? You eat healthy, even when everyone else around you is eating a greasy burger? And after 5 years of hard work you want to show off a picture of your body via social media with an inspiring message?

Well, now that makes you a huge douchebag, because clearly your underlying message was that fat people are disgusting lumps of human excrement and you should spit on them. How dare you, you condescending, fat-shaming prick.

Oh, but wait, there's more!

There's also "slut-shaming", which once meant unjustly criticizing a woman for being sexual, but now means that no one can poke fun at or criticize any aspect of a woman's sex life, even jokingly, without being labeled a chauvinistic, sexist asshole. There's "gender-shaming", which means that if you give a boy a G.I. Joe you also have to give him a Barbie doll so you don't "force" him to act like a boy against his will (which also makes you an asshole), and there's even "kid-shaming", where parents can no longer take any disciplinary action toward their child whatsoever without getting called cruel and heartless and implying that the kid is going to end up some psychologically damaged, emotional trainwreck.

Don't get us wrong, we don't think it's acceptable to bully someone or be a dick to certain groups of people, but how about we stop using the word "shame" to describe any slight form of criticism or opinion that conflicts with our own? Or do we all want to live in a world where we have to constantly walk on eggshells over the slightest thing?

I mean, surely this is just the beginning. Maybe in the near future dietitians and nutritionists will be known as "calorie-shamers." Perhaps fashion designers will be known as "style-shamers" and psychologists will be known as "mental health-shamers." Hell, maybe the judicial system and the media will even be criticized for "crime-shaming."


So please, stop shaming humanity by abusing this stupid word. Save it for the times that someone's truly getting bullied or persecuted. Don't use it just because someone disagrees with you or points out a flaw or, God forbid, is proud of something in their own life. Shaming people shamelessly is just a damn shame.

Cheers and stay classy, friends,
B&B

Music: The Knocks
Beer: Blue Moon Summer Honey Wheat

(Stay tuned for next week when we answer more of your questions. In case you haven't noticed, we're alternating each week with answers and regular posts so you don't get sick of them. Or us)


160 comments:

  1. Well said, guys. Some people are just too sensitive, even when it comes to the facts.
    Be sure to stop by today...

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    1. Way ahead of you! And by that, I mean stop shaming everyone else in the blogosphere, you shameless blog-shamer.

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  2. You joke but I have seen people outraged at being asked if they're a boy or a girl when they play Pokemon. You know what my actual MTF trans friend does? She picks girl. Like a fucking rational human being.

    It's kind of sad that at the end of my weight loss journey, when I've lost over 200 pounds, I will not be allowed to be proud of it and people will hate me for having lost weight and being healthy. Fuck those people.

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    1. Oh yes, we're aware of the outrage. It's nice that there's war and murder and starvation going on in the world, but people are getting mad at a children's video game asking what gender they want their character to be.

      And yes, fuck those people. You should be damn proud of what you've accomplished, even now.

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  3. I shamelessly told an obese woman who works at the drycleaners that I could tell she was losing weight. I honestly never saw her smile before she told me about her weight watchers. Now I shamelessly ask her about it every time I see her because I'm shamelessly pulling for her!

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    1. How dare you fat-shame her by acknowledging that she was once fat. She was just as beautiful before, if not more beautiful when she had a gunt. High cholesterol is sexy. Stop the hate.

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  4. I'll sound like an old person (age-shaming!) here, but this is a really new phenomenon. Up until like two years ago, shaming was considered an effective form of corrective therapy. Someone's on drugs? Have their loved ones gather and shame them into rehab. Shame was reserved for behavior that was correctable. If you can't change something, how can you be shamed for it?
    This is where I promote a phrase we as a society need to use way more often to correct people who may mean well but get off on self-righteousness: please, tell those deluded assholes, "go fuck yourself." It's vulgar, but quite effective.

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    1. Pickleope used vulgarity: it's super effective!

      After reading your comment, I just imagined a family staging an intervention for their son, who's addicted to meth and slowly killing himself, and it just backfiring in PC bullshit.

      "Son, we brought all of your friends and family here because we're concerned about your drug use and we want to tell you how it's effecting both yourself and us."
      "Really, grandma? You're just gonna shame me like that in front of everyone I know? This is bullshit. Stop drug-shaming me!"

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  5. Yes. This is so crazy. I know some people who will be joking around with everyone else, but the second someone makes a joke about them, they literally burst into tears and you're just left standing there awkwardly wondering if you should apologize or just let them sort their own mess out. Mostly, I just let them sort their own mess out. I'm awful at consoling people, especially over sensitive people who are really just craving attention. And loved the pokemon comic. Video game characters having to make public apologies. That was hilarious.

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    1. We hate that mentality, too - "It's funny to make fun of everyone... until someone makes fun of me."

      You know, what's great about the whole Pokemon thing is that the game is asking you what gender your CHARACTER is. Not you as a person. Your character can be a little boy or a little girl. Your character cannot be a transman with female tendencies who's questioning the possibility of being a genderqueer. Just answer the fucking question and play the damn game.

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  6. How dare you boys engage in shame-shaming? Seriously, though, I have the solution to all this. Everyone should just Mind Their Own Goddamn Business for a change instead of everyone else's.

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    1. That solution is way too simple to be effective. Have you tried getting needlessly upset instead? This is the Internet, after all. And a comment section just wouldn't be a comment section without a pointless shouting match. We'll start.

      "That is such a liberal thing to say, you backwoods, conservative knobgobbler. Fuck Obama."

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  7. This all started when someone thought it was a good idea to give out participation ribbons instead of ribbons for winning. I blame those people.

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    1. Ah yes, the valiant medal of honor just for trying. God forbid we tell someone they failed. When no one loses, everyone loses.

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  8. I was asked once why I work out so much and I said I didn't want to become a fat, rolley polley, old fart. The person who asked said that was good, and then some idiot listening who was fat and old starting ranting away about how I was insensitive and that I would be lucky if I made it to her age and blah blah blah, then she drove off on one of those stupid motorized carts they have for shoppers.

    You can't do or say anything now a days without someone getting offended, so screw them. They can take their shame and shove it up their ass. Pokemon was an awesome addition, haven't played that in years.

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    1. As someone who works out a lot too, and not to look like Arnold (I just don't want to be fat)... yes. Absolutely. Now we can't even say that being fat is bad. Now it's natural. It's a good thing. It's beautiful. We have to call them stunningly gorgeous or we're assholes.

      I'm eating a tub of margarine right now just so I can be sexy. Is this how it works?

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    2. Shame on you for butter-shaming! What, don't you think butter is good enough to be seen out in public with? Wouldn't take it home to your Momma? Obviously you are a close-minded nekulturny shamer!
      What? Wait! You're eating the butters? You're eating the butters! Animal products! Vegan shamer!

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    3. But I tried the gluten free, free range, vegan, organic alternative of butter! It tastes terrible! Also, it has no calories! How am I supposed to get fat now?

      I had entirely forgotten about the vegans. Now THAT'S a group of angry, scornful people you don't want to tick off!

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  9. I don't think there's any way for me to discuss this topic without sounding like my conservative grandpa ("Life's just tough and you need to accept that and stop being so g/d over-sensitive!"). I'm not sure how you managed that.

    Thank you for not just answering questions this week. You answered my question second or third and I had the best quesiton anyway. These other people should have just done google searches to get their answers.

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    1. I think this post has made grandpas of all of us. "Why, in my day, you could poke fun at someone without getting called a shamer! Dadgummit!"

      And I wonder, do you think people would understand if we just stopped answering questions? That seems like a pretty valid excuse. "Sorry guys, the best question was already asked. Everything from here on out is just gonna be downhill. If you want to know what our favorite color is or how tall we are, just Google it. I'm sure we word vomited it somewhere across the Internet."

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    2. "Dadgummit!"

      Now there's a word to add to my vocabulary! Perfect grandpa speak! I'm stealing it!

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  10. It's a shame that I took the time to read this post. I'm bringing in author-shaming....because you guys stink! How dare you guys point out people who get offended by those who get offended? There's no shame in shaming the shameless. Trust me, I know shame. I am the author of shameful promotions, after all. It's fitting that I have you guys pinned to the wall of shame....you deserve it! Shameless bastards!

    In all seriousness though, the shame is out of control and it makes me sick. It just builds more grounds for more pitiful lawsuits...and that is a real shame!

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    1. Now I'm comment-shaming you for author-shaming us. And I'm offended that you're offended by people who get offended by those who are offended. Also, I'm very confused.

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    2. We're all confused...and that itself is a shame. We're all afraid to use certain words because the PC world tells us we can't use those words.

      Is there no end to this *insert any word*-shaming?

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    3. I stumbled upon this article and immediately reminded me of this post and how easily people get offended.

      http://news.yahoo.com/texas-students-aim-jefferson-davis-campus-statue-080943156.html

      It is about people wanting to remove a statue that represents our history of this nation....because you know, our history is offensive.

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    4. Wow. At a certain point, our history books aren't even going to be history books anymore. They're just going to be full of those bullshit "trigger warnings" with the dumbed down, politically correct version of history.

      TRIGGER WARNING: contains war, genocide, and antisemitism! Anyone sensitive to this can sit outside the classroom while we read.

      In World War II, Adolf Hitler and the Nazis made many people of Jewish origin living impaired.

      (The next twelve paragraphs explains that Germany is not like that any more and they they have a very progressive and diverse society)

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  11. That last cartoon might be my favourite I've ever seen from you ;)

    I have a thing against the word "misogynist" at the moment. Lots of people I meet or know use it in the most ridiculous situations. One person said the TV show Friends was misogynist because it pigeonholes girls into pretty heavy stereotypes. Another pointed to a show called The Footy Show which is hosted by several men who rip into each other like blokes often do. He called that show misogynist. That word used to refer to people who HATE women. Neither of those situations represent that.

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    1. Yes! That's another heavily abused word that we're starting to hate. I've seen a man and a woman arguing and the man got called a misogynist simply because he was disagreeing with her. As Inigo Montoya once said...

      "You keep using that word..."

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    2. My Mum was telling us about how she wanted a third child and my Dad didn't and all of Mum's friends told her "So have it! Since when is he the boss?" It's a bit different, but still a case of feminism taken too far. It kind of makes me laugh, but also very exasperated :P

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  12. I actually think a few people should be shamed. It's something of a misuse of the word though isn't it?

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    1. We should definitely still shame people. Preferably, the real jerks. Not people that are trying to correct the jerks.

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    2. I saw a comment on Facebook which fits here. I am not arguing I am pointing out that I am correct.

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    3. Oh, that's a fantastic quote. I'm definitely stealing that. Uh, I mean purposefully recycling that.

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    4. Shame on you for stealing it even if you call it recycling.

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  13. And then they take it one step further and try to take a person's kids away for correcting them or suing the shamers for defamation of character or some crap like that.

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    1. Yeah, right? Like, a kid stabs another kid with a pair of scissors, and instead of shaming him or punishing him we should just send him to a corner for time out and then ask him nicely not to stab other kids with scissors. That can't possibly fail.

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  14. There are a whole host of words that I was once free to use. However in the world of PC the word "shame" has been added to that list. Adding words to the list of "unacceptable" terms is what's gotten society into the mess in the first place. Ya, some words are truly offensive, but this isn't one of them. and I certainly won't bow down to the pressure to erase that word from my vocabulary unless it is used in a singularly defined manner. The whole PC bullshit is what's gotten us walking on eggshells.

    Recently the word thug has been added to that list. I'm going to use that word anytime I want to as well. Fuck the PC bastards that tell me I can't.

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    1. Really, people can't say thug now? Is it because people are projecting racial connotations onto it?

      Nowadays, it seems like "fat" is a dirty word. You can't say it without someone getting outraged. And yet I'm going to keep saying it because "big-boned" isn't a thing. I love having a fat vocabulary. It helps us tell the big fat truth. I have a fat head and have been known to ruin sweaters. Yeah, I said it.

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    2. Ya, thug is off limits now. I can't call a rapper who sings about "living the thug life" a thug anymore. I thought living the thug life was supposed to be cool, so it doesn't make sense to me.

      When I was pregnant I was fat. But people would say "you're not fat, you're just pregnant". No, I was fat, I was a fatty fat, fucking ding dong. All that weight came from craving doughnuts and eating a dozen of them every morning. I owned my fatness. Nay embraced it.

      And the Hubby is tired of people not being able to use the word "disabled" or "handicapped" when referring to him. For fucks sake, he's handicapped and using a different word to describe his condition doesn't make him able to do things he can't do.

      It's all retarded. Oh shit, I can't use that word anymore :0)

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    3. I hate that we can't use that word either... retarded is such a perfect description for so many things.

      And yes, the "gifted" and "specially abled" thing annoys me too. Let's not kid ourselves. It's not a gift. It's not special. It's an impairment. A handicap. It sucks, but sugar coating it and making it sound like a superpower isn't helping anyone.

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    4. What's ironic about this whole PC thing is that it is supposed to make us more civli to one another, more thoughtful, more kind and less hurtful. But it hasn't done any of that. I noticed a comment where you said you don't read the comments on news articles anymore. I don't either as it's full of people being cruel and nasty to one another. These people have no regard for how others feel and enjoy slinging insults at one another. So where is all this "let's not offend anyone" business. People are offensive in greater numbers and they get off on it. I have to wonder if all this PC shite is just propaganda designed to hide ourselves from ourselves. Or to make the rest of the world think our shit don't stink.

      I can't read the comment sections of news stories anymore as it was making me toxic. I was beginning to think that all people are horrid and that's just not true. What's true is that horrid people hang out in those places in absolutely staggering numbers.

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  15. You guys pour so much good stuff into your posts - this one is especially provocative. Without getting into anything meaningful, because, as we all know, this isn't the place for that, I'm starting to campaign against "short-shaming". Because people are constantly asking me how tall I am - strangers in elevators, cashiers at the supermarket, where-ever, as if they have the right to to ask. Kids I meet ask, "Are you a kid or an adult?" It's my right to be short, and it must be criminalized for people to point it out. All of these kids and adults should be thrown into jail cells for short-shaming, in short order, little jail cells with low ceilings and toilets and stuff.

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    1. That's brilliant! I love the idea of little hobbit-sized jail cells.

      "You are hereby sentenced to three weeks in the hobbit hole for asking Robyn, 'how's the weather down there?', with an additional week tacked on for actually thinking that was original and funny."

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    2. I'm scrolling through the comments (because they are almost as fun as the original post. Sorry B&B (did that shame you???). Anyway, I only got one thing to say to you Robyn. But before I do, I want to say this: This song is from WAY back (I think the 70s) when anybody said any damn thing they wanted.

      https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BUlIv3Ca8AI

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    3. I'm not a Randy Newman fan in general, but I love the song 'SHORT PEOPLE'. Ironically, when that song became a big hit, the 'International Association of Lilliputians and Mini-Mes' (or some name like that) protested and boycotted.

      They missed the entire point of the song, which was actually, if anything, supportive of the 'Lullaby League / Lollypop Guild'.

      I guess the reason they missed the true message of the song was because their sense-o'-humor was so small.

      ~ D-FensDogG

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    4. I'd never heard that song but it's so wonderfully offcolor. It's also funny to see, courtesy of Google, just how many people misinterpret that song as a direct attack against short people. Point missed entirely. I mean, who wouldn't want to join the Lullaby League or the Lollipop Guild? Any club devoted entirely to candy and naps is okay by me.

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    5. Robin, I thought of that song after I responded to BnB. Damn, I hated Randy Newman for it. So many kids at school sang it to me. My parents were good about explaining that he was using sarcasm. I believe that's the first time I learned the word "sarcasm." I appreciated the creativity and message, but to this day I loathe Newman for that tune. BnB, I burst into laughter regarding the Hobbit like jail cell. And yes, people are too stupid to understand sarcasm.

      Excuse me while I head to work...it takes extra time to adjust the phone books I sit on, pull my seat up so my chest is touching the steering wheel, and put on my Elton John elevator shoes so I can reach the break. (The chest part of this is true. Since phone-books don't exist any more, though, I use a pillow.)

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  16. B&B:
    You bring up some excellent aspects if modern society
    WIfey's an English teacher (and French and Latin) and we're frequently discussing how the American language and it's words are being "bastardized" of late.
    There could be a short-term solution...
    Without reading all the previous comments and going out on a limb here...I think we SHOULD abolish ALL the hyphenated shaming...EXCEPT for ONE:
    "Shame-Shaming!!!"

    That would cover it all, people would definitely over-abuse it in no time, and drop it from the lexicon.
    (sounds like a win=win to me)

    OR...we could all go back to the what our vocabulary used to REALLY mean,. and stop all the manufactured PCBS.

    A very good & timely post.

    Stay safe (and well-versed) out there, guys!

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    1. If we take out hyphenated shaming, can we also do away with those ridiculous hyphenated married names that just never stop?

      "Hi, I'm Sarah Sterling-Chang, and this is my son, Timothy Sterling-Chang-Rodriguez-Goldstein (he married a half Jewish, half Hispanic woman. Good for him)."

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  17. I agree with Robyn, about short-shaming. I've experienced that and had the smirks and what do you need, little person? Someone even wrote a song about it, bah. Hobbit jails for them, sounds good.
    But I do have an incidence to relate. The other day, I nearly collided with a lady going backwards down the grocery aisle at the store. In her kart were two screaming kiddos, just screaming, not crying. I told her to watch where she was going, and she turned and said 'you don't have to be so rude about it and make a person feel bad' I said 'you were going backwards down an aisle, you should look behind you' then she said I should apologize. I turned on my heel after a look of disgust and left with a large blank space where she wanted an apology. Fat chance of that. (keep in mind I am pushing hubs in his wheelchair and she's expecting me to apologize for her nearly running into us?) Hubs had a heart attack last year and is still recovering so he gets a ride now and then. A few onlookers said nothing, but even a mob wouldn't make me apologize. I have my principles, after all.

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    1. Sorry to hear about your husband. I wasn't aware of that. With that said, good for you. I too am stubborn in that regard and refuse to apologize in an instance where I did nothing wrong. If anything, you're the better person for not saying anything. I would have told her what I really thought and become "that guy."

      And really, isn't that the way it always is? Like, it's just great when I'm driving, minding my own business, and someone veers into my lane, almost slams into me, and I honk the horn to let them know I'm there, and then they flip me off and give me a nasty glance like *I'M* the jerk. I can't remember the last time I've seen a stranger in public accept accountability for their actions.

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  18. I agree, I've also been thinking about this for a while now, and am thinking about how to put it into words.

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    1. Now you don't just have words. You have pictures. We're noble like that. (And thanks)

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  19. I remember back when "boy" was the only option for Pokemon games. I remember some of the girls that played it were excited when they finally added the option for a female lead character in Pokemon Crystal.

    I know my Pokemans

    There's one episode of the King of the Hill where Hank was distrubed that Bobby was playing as a girl (Tomb Raider)

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    1. I grew up with the Pokemans too and I also remember how excited the girls in my class were when they finally got the version that let you be a girl. I thought that was cool. Apparently I was a bigoted, schoolyard asshole for thinking so.

      And Tomb Raider, that brings back some memories. God bless Lara Croft and those super hot square boobs.

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  20. OOO, what a FABulous way to send people spinning in circles, chasing their tails; and for distraction it seriously rocks! Who needs shiny when you have 'whatever'-shaming?

    Can't you just imagine: political debate on, say, childhood hunger or nuclear disarmament, or out of control governmental spending, and the losing side starts shouting something like 'embassy defence shaming!' and completely distracts everyone from the issues at hand.

    Nah, never mind... never happen, much less work.

    (Why yes, I am feeling equal-opportunity 'shaminger' today, lol.)

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    1. That'd be a great way to win a debate, though. "You're just view-shaming me because I don't share the same political ideals as you. This year, don't vote for my opponent. He's just a big, mean, shaming bully."

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  21. You're shame shaming! Shame on you. I hear you man, as a comedy writer it is UNPOSSIBLE to stay focused on poking fun at White Trash obese sluts anymore. And if I can't laugh at myself who can I laugh at?

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    1. Ba-dum-TISH!

      We know your pain, fellow comedy writer. I hate this PC bullshit that says we can't make fun of certain things. It's off limits because it's "shaming." Like anything transgender. You can't poke fun at a transgender person or their situation without being labeled a disgusting transphobe. The only thing that's disgusting is Bruce Jenner having killed someone but all we can talk about and apparently care about is what he wants between his legs.

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  22. You're shame shaming! Shame on you. I hear you man, as a comedy writer it is UNPOSSIBLE to stay focused on poking fun at White Trash obese sluts anymore. And if I can't laugh at myself who can I laugh at?

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    1. Quit comment-shaming us with your double comments, you racist homophobe!

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  23. We're turning into the biggest whiners. I once told my son to stop acting like a girl (he had a high pitch whine going on) at the mall and got a lecture from a bull faced woman. I am a girl, I thought I was allowed to make jokes?

    But then I was offended by the Superbowl commercial with the "do it like a girl" campaign. I do throw, run, and squeal like a girl...are they suggesting I am bad for being a stereotypical girl? I feel like they called my worth into question if I'm not an athletic, take charge sort of chick. Those politically correct people can be so damned insensitive. Shame on them.

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    1. You comment like a girl. Take that to mean whatever you want.

      No, I'm kidding. More than anything, I just hate when people butt into my conversations like that over little, nitpicky things. If I'm talking to a loved one and we're having a private conversation, leave me the fuck alone. You are not involved in my conversation.

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  24. I'm not saying you got anything wrong here (would that be write-shaming?), but I think that all of this shaming may be a subset of Entitlement. Not justified entitlement (I worked, give me paycheck entitlement, but I breathe, reward me entitlement). People are entitled to be fat. People are entitled to be drug addicts. Children are taught that you get a ribbon for just participating (there are no winners or losers, which is bullshit, because life DOES NOT work that way). And it all creates this feeling of Entitlement. I breathe, so give me my damn ribbon. I pose that in the name of entitlement, succces-shaming will be the next big thing. Usually the government gets celebs to get on camera and spout their ridiculous notions of what we should think about things. But, since they are successful... maybe they'll get on there and lie telling us that they plan to give all future earnings to the poor. In India. Or Africa. Someplace that doesn't track taxes would be best. The North Pole maybe? Specifically to Santa Claus, because he doesn't shame anybody. And he isn't successful. The guy just gives and gives and gives.

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    1. Fantastic comment, and that's 100% true. It's just funny that for all of this entitlement, they never think of their opposite. Like, yes, people are entitled to be fat. Just as I'm entitled to be fit. And if I'm fit, and I'm proud of that, it's because I'm proud of me being fit, not because I think the fat person is a lazy, disgusting piece of shit and I hate them.

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  25. I've heard the word "shaming" used, but I'm pretty far outta the loop when it comes to all the bullshit today. (I checked into The Mayberry Hotel in the 1960s and that's where I've remained.)

    I won't stay on this soapbox too long, but just long enough to say...

    All of this crap is part of a plan. The whole G.I. Joe / Barbie bit, and a million other things (Feminism being just one of them) were introduced long ago as facets of a master plan in the field of Mental Health. And, of course, the Americonned Sheeple jumped right on-board because, in general, they're so gullible and incapable of critical thinking.

    The Big Picture of this plan is to eradicate the idea of there being objective facts. Once you've done that, you can paint the landscape anyway you want and the sheeple will buy into it.

    And you can look and quickly see how effective this has been. Have a debate with someone - ANYONE - and see how long it takes for the person to say, "That's just your opinion!" It won't matter that you've stated plain facts that can be verified with a little research, because whatever you say that contradicts the position your opponent prefers to hold, THAT will be labeled as "just your opinion".

    However, there ARE some things that are objective facts. Yes, one can be too fat. Yes, one can be too stupid. Yes, one can be too heterosexual. Yes, one can be deaf, dumb and blind. (Where I come from, we call that a "doormat".)

    OK, a couple of those examples were just tossed in to see if you were still paying attention.

    Carry on, Beer Boys, carry on...

    ~ D-FensDogG
    'Loyal American Underground'

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    1. If anything, all of this crap has already done a great job of painting the picture that everything's just great the way it is. You're beautiful just the way you are! You don't have to lose any weight to be happy, even if it's devastating your health! There's nothing wrong with working at McDonald's for your entire life!

      Who needs betterment when you're already "the best"?

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    2. I'm sure that you're both already aware of this but I do believe the entire point of Common Core is to steal an entire generation of kids and impose the ideology StMc mentioned above. For instance, I was talking to a math teacher a couple years ago (a very disgusted math teacher) about how the Federally demanded Common Core curriculum has changed the way math is taught (and graded), but most importantly PERCEIVED by kids. When I was in school, math was a subject that was black and white. You worked the problem and the answer was right or it was wrong. No gray area there. Now... math students have to journal how they FEEL about math (and this is part of their grade). No one cared how I FELT about math... and for good reason! The other tragedy is that math is now designed with there not being any wrong answers. It's flexible. 2 and 2 can equal 5 if the student can creatively figure out how to present it. So, there are no wrong answers any longer. When we abolish critical thinking (rights and wrongs) in MATH, and kids believe that, they will never accept absolute facts in other areas either. The plan is perfect in its simplicity. And it's working. People say things like, "kids are getting more stupid, more entitled, less empathetic, just plain meaner," but they can't figure out why. Let me help you out... Common Core. It's not the whole problem, but it's a big part of it.

      Let me step off my soap box now.

      Carry on boys...

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    3. Lauren - that's a great article, and so true. No wonder people argue over things that are facts, and still end it with, as Stephen said, "well that's just your opinion."

      Robin - I've only heard of Common Core, but since I don't have kids, I don't know anything about it. The only thing I know is that this picture went around the Internet for a while, so I know you aren't kidding when you say that sometimes, in the eyes of Common Core, 2 + 2 can equal 5... if you want it to be.

      http://moonbattery.com/graphics/Common-Core-Math.jpgM

      (which makes no damn sense)

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    4. Lauren ~ That was an excellent article that I *think* seems up this problem succinctly (ergo, according to Common Core that makes it inherently false). Parents will have to work double time to compensate for this belief system Common Core is ingraining to have children with ANY moral compass (and that's assuming they even KNOW it's happening... and most don't!). Thank you for sharing that.

      B&B ~ I've not seen that particular "evidence" of Common Core before now, but it's an excellent example of what a kid's Math test looks like. One of my college friends posts nearly daily on Common Core (and how much she hates it for her kids). She's talked about her kids literally breaking down and crying over their homework. For a thinking child, it simply doesn't make any sense and they can't reconcile it. Makes me glad I'm NOT dealing with this bologna.

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    5. GOIL WONDER ~
      Indeed, I've known about Common Core for awhile. Well, you know I have my tinfoil hat stuffed with stuffs!

      A lot of people make the mistake of thinking that the world is going to hell in myriad, coincidental bits and pieces, but that's not true. The world is indeed going to hell, but all those bits and pieces are interrelated. They are all Legos of hell that connect to each other to form a whole. And like real Legos, they were designed to fit together the way they do.

      Like I said before, there's a plan behind all this. "They" are cooking up hell according to a written recipe, it's not just improvisation - tossing in a school program here and tweaking theology and social mores there. No, it's a precise recipe they're following.

      I thought that article was a little strange. I agreed with the writer's conclusion, but he made some rather odd statements on his way to the conclusion. The beginning and ending of the article didn't seem to consistently match the midsection of it. Nevertheless, it was refreshing to read something in the New York Times that I could mostly agree with. That doesn't happen more than once every... hmmm... Well, boy howdy, I'm not sure it's EVER happened before. [;-)}

      ~ D-FensDogG

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  26. I think what it comes down to is that like 90% of people on the internet are over-sensitive babies who feel the need to complain loudly about everything.

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    1. Absolutely. I'm not even kidding when I say this, but I stopped going to the comment section of any video/news article and I feel 100% happier in my day to day life. Those places are just the cesspool of the Internet, full of angry, bitter people that will say the nastiest things to each other because of some constant need to complain anonymously.

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  27. I've just eaten myself sick with lunch followed by apple pie and whipped cream, three chocolate bars, washed down with hot coffees. It felt great guzzling the chow down but now I feel like a bloated baddie. I deserve to be shamed don't I?

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    1. You deserve a high five for eating all of that without puking. I had a bran muffin this morning and a small cup of coffee. Health food sucks.

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  28. The media loves to hype all of this crap up to the limit. What p-o's me are the entertainment shows who speak about a hugely obese star and say she is full-figured or has an hourglass shape but another entertainer who is actually healthy and at a good weight, not concentration camp thin, they call them heavy and make negative comments about them. Marilyn Monroe would be told to lose 60 lbs now. Why is there such a focus on ultra thin "stars" but the average Joe is getting fatter and fatter? Let's see-there is fried chicken, pork, etc... they even have fried chocolate and pickles! Everything is fried even the fat is deep fried. I really believe we are being fattened up for some alien's dinner. If someone is too fat the Doctor and friends/family need to tell them otherwise they can think they look all great but be dead and in a huge box after. I have had screaming kids in my office and I have told the kids to pipe down. I have had moms tell me that I obviously don't have kids. My reply was "I may not have kids but that doesn't mean I can't tell when a child is tired or hurt from a child who is being a brat. It is not the kid's fault." I then stare at the parent(s). Being shamed is a horrible thing, but like anything, others will take that and use it for their own advantage

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    1. Wow, that's a great point. I don't know how many times I've seen entertainment outlets comment on someone like Gabourey Sidibe being a "full figured, curvy woman" and then talk about someone like Kate Winslet and say, "Wow, look who's getting chunky!"

      And yes, I never know what's worse, having to scold or stop someone's child for them, or them berating you afterwards. Because their kid is running around screaming punching other kids in the back of the head, but YOU'RE the asshole for telling the kid to stop while the parent was just sitting there doing nothing.

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  29. The Robyn/Robins have it! They get my vote-shaming! LOL
    I love reading the comments too….
    I blame it all on reality TV. So I'm a reality TV-shamer, and the morons that are on them.
    It really is about entitlement, as Robin says. To which I say to those seekers of entitlement - earn it, stop demanding it.

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    1. I'm a reality TV-shamer too. I mean, we all know those shows are fake anyway. So in a way, I'm also a reality-shamer. Yeah, that's right, the nasty truth is out there, world. Your favorite "unscripted" shows are very much scripted.

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  30. Yes, it's a bit of an issue how easily offended some groups of people get these days. It's not necessarily a bad thing, but when it causes fighting to break out and everyone to bitch at each other, we're not really getting anywhere.
    I'd argue that this post is partly disinfo and paints sensitivity towards people's life choices in a negative light, but this is ABftS, so that was kinda to be expected anyway. ;D

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    1. Personally, I don't think people getting offended easily is a good thing in any way. If we looked for more common ground and were more accepting of each other as a whole, we could be more free to say things without someone getting in a huff over something completely innocent. Like the body-shaming thing. If someone takes a picture of themselves and is very proud of it - regardless of whether they're fat or thin, muscular or not - just let them be proud of themselves. It has nothing to do with shitting on whatever you look like or putting down a particular body type and has everything to do with them just being happy with themselves.

      Also, the bad thing about people getting so easily offended is that they don't ever do anything about it. They get in a huff, they whine, and then they just go about their day. That solves nothing.

      I'm reminded of this great quote by Stephen Fry.

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  31. I was at the Dr office this morning and they had a calendar up called Pet shaming. The poor pets were posing beside something they've destroyed with a sign saying what they did. You know my dog ate my sunglasses. I didn't realize I should have shamed him. I just said no and threw the sunglasses away.

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    1. I tried cat-shaming my kitten by putting a sign next to her that said 'I tried to climb the blinds and got stuck on the door frame' but I get a nagging suspicion she did not realize the error of her ways.

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    2. I'm sure she didn't give a fuck even if she did see the error of her ways. I know mine wouldn't care. They'd probably hope someone felt sorry for them and took them away from me.

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  32. The push for tolerance has backfired.

    It used to be that you were careful not to step on toes because you were trying to be polite. Now, you can't ever win - everyone has too many toes.

    I teach a literature class and the kids write essays. If they get a low grade, it's never "they'll do better" or "now I know I have to work on that skill" - it's always "BUT THEY'RE NOT STUPID!" Did I say anyone was stupid? Nope.

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    1. I can only imagine what it's like to be a teacher in this day and age. I know more and more, parents are getting upset with teachers and assuming that if their child fails, it's because they have a bad teacher.

      Accountability - something you (sadly) just can't teach!

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    2. That's why I homeschool and run a homeschool cooperative. I try to make sure we are all on the same page before I let them participate. Ain't nobody got time for that!

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  33. So, wait, what does that make me? I'm a word-shamer? A book-shamer? Just a writer-shamer?
    Maybe an art-shamer?
    I'm so confused now!

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    1. Definitely a Pat-shamer. Maybe even a review-shamer. Shame on you.

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    2. I'm so ash... oh, wait, no, I'm not.

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  34. Um, I'm not sure if I'm more saddened, frightened, or irritated by this trend.

    I feel all of those emotions at once when I look at the children who have to grow up, learning such "values" from a society that can't take criticism. I mean, we say they'll never survive in the adult world if they get coddled too much, well these are those overly coddled kids from 10-15 years ago who are growing up and making a bad situation far worse than it's ever been before.

    Ty and I took a literature class a few years ago and we read a short story about a society where everyone was completely "equal." People who were too smart were forced by the government to have implants in their ears that made a loud, awful noise every 30 seconds, effectively taking away their ability to form long-term memories and thereby figure out what was really going on and start a revolution. Those who were too attractive has to wear bags and masks. Those who were more agile and/ or graceful were forced to wear weights on all of their limbs so they couldn't outshine anyone else. All of this was enforced through media censorship and straight up violence. The scariest part of reading that story was knowing how very possible such a situation really is.

    The point I'm making here is that I totally agree with you in this. People need to stop finding offense in everything people say and get over themselves. The End.

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    1. I don't suppose you know what that short story was called, do you? It sounds really fascinating... and part of me wants to read it, but the other part doesn't (because it will probably crush my soul).

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    2. I don't have the book anymore, but I found it with the help of Lord Google:

      http://www.tnellen.com/cybereng/harrison.html

      It is not for the faint-hearted, because I'll tell you right now that the reason this story has stuck with me so vividly after only reading it once 4 years ago is because it is so powerful, and it is so utterly frightening in how possible it is that we're heading in a similar direction. But the good news is that maybe, just maybe, if enough people are aware of this story and the realities that it points to, we can do something to avoid it.

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    3. Ooh, it was a Vonnegut story! It all makes so much sense now. We both love Vonnegut. Had not read this one, though.

      Yeah, that was an incredible story. Very striking, a few darkly funny moments, and sad that it could end up being so true - handicapping each other severely just in the interest of so-called 'equality.' And isn't it funny? That's something you can't say in this era without people going into a tirade...

      "We aren't equal."

      But we aren't. We all have special gifts and abilities that make us different from one another. Some are smarter. Some are prettier. Some are stronger. And you know what, for all of that, some people are dumb, ugly, and weak. And some people are brilliant, gorgeous, and strong as an ox. It's just the way the world works. Denying it is no better than burying your head in the sand.

      Thank you, truly, for being able to find that story. I have a few people I'm gonna share that with, that I know will... um... is "appreciate" the right word? Because it feels like partly yes, and partly no.

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    4. I was happy to find it. It wasn't difficult, and I'm glad you're planning to share the story. And I definitely agree that the word "appreciate" might not apply to everyone's reactions when they read it.

      I really find it sad that so many people these days are forgetting just how important it is for us to be different from each other! It's a good thing! And far too many people are clinging to this twisted idea of "equality," and ignoring what it's really supposed to mean.

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  35. “You are a slow learner, Winston."
    "How can I help it? How can I help but see what is in front of my eyes? Two and two are four."
    "Sometimes, Winston. Sometimes they are five. Sometimes they are three. Sometimes they are all of them at once. You must try harder. It is not easy to become sane.”
    ― George Orwell, 1984

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    1. This post actually explains how I feel about your blog: I am amazed at the size of your balls!!

      I am amazed because in today's world I am horrified of offending and so I usually say far less than I want to. Everyone is so politically correct that being indignant is expected and celebrated! Everyone is a victim in today's world because no one is responsible for their mistakes. It is always someone else's fault which results in people having to walk on egg shells.

      However, what people fail to realize with this mindset is that if you do not take responsibility for your failures, then likewise you cannot take responsibility for your successes. Or maybe in today's world you can have one without the other because... fat is thin, good is bad... pride is shame.

      But bravo to you guys because funny will always be funny (I hope)!

      BTW, I love the animated GIF for your bookstore in the sidebar! Posts like this one will always make me a loyal customer.

      Also, I love the 8-bit video game illustration! It is so great!

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    2. I can't paint or 3D render, but I can draw old 8-bit games like a champ... (Pretend like that's a useful talent. It helps me feel important)

      You know, the number one thing we've learned in blogging, which we've taken into our daily lives, is that people are going to get offended no matter what you say or no matter what you post. I mean, it's funny, we can post some of the most off-color things and hear not one negative word, and yet I've seen sweet, middle aged women blog about something as innocent as wanting to lose some weight to look good for their husbands and then getting SLAMMED with misconstrued hate comments ("If he thinks you're too fat, then you should divorce his ass!".

      In other words, people are always going to be offended, and they'll often surprise you by getting offended over the dumbest, most inane things. So what's the point? Why cater to someone that won't like you anyway? In the end, you walk on eggshells to please someone who's not even worth pleasing, and all you do is hurt the people who DO like you by restricting yourself.

      That's no fun for anyone.

      And hey, I'm glad you noticed the GIF! I'm pretty proud of that silly little thing. Definitely more eye-catching than the simple menu bar.

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  36. If this wasn't so spot on true, it would be hilarious. As it is, it puts another little check mark on the "Find that cave and become a hermit" side of the ledger...

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    1. Room in that cave for two more? Or would that cave-shame you, to have to be forced to share cave space against your will?

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    2. Just remember, there's a rule of silence, outside of funny bodily noises.

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  37. It seems like too many people are way too impressed with their own opinions... regardless of whether or not they're based on even a modicum of fact... so they feel compelled to regurgitate their thoughts about everything and everyone around them, whether anyone has ASKED for their opinion or not. (Usually NOT.) Those are the same people who look down their noses as they proclaim someone else to be whatever it is they choose to label them. They are certainly entitled to their opinions, but I'm also entitled to not have to listen to them. These are the people who are most likely to try to "shame" other people, based on their own narcissist opinions. Ridiculous. And I'm not ashamed to say so.

    But their targets needs to lighten up and get a thicker skin, too. Not everything is a Federal Case. Most of the time, the matter can and should be shrugged off, perhaps with a single properly extended digit.

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    1. Yes - everybody needs WAY thicker skin.

      That line of thinking just reminds me of the ever-growing progression of road rage. Once upon a time, if someone cut you off, the offender gave an "I'm sorry" wave and you waved back. Or they did/said nothing and you mumbled, "What a moron," and just shrugged it off. By the end of your trip you didn't even remember they existed.

      Nowadays people will follow you 5 miles back to your house and have a knockdown brawl or a shootout (or both) with you over the same thing. When the hell did this start becoming normal?

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  38. Thank GOD "Cat shaming" isn't a thing (I mean, shaming cat people. Shaming cats themselves is an excellent thing.)

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    1. I shame my cat constantly. Most recently over climbing the blinds and getting stuck on the door frame. Also meaning that if you ever get "cat-shamed" I will definitely be right there with you.

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  39. Missed you guys a couple weeks ago at PPWC. Absinthe vampire parties just aren't the same without you.

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    1. Damn, no kidding. We missed seeing our writing pals but we also didn't have the funds to attend. Maybe next year. The hotel bar is a-callin'.

      Don't conference shame us!

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  40. Excellent post. Treating people like garbage because you don't approve of the "quaint realistic" language that they use to describe some is just plain stupid.

    Example:

    Am I fat? Yes, I am.
    Am I bald? You betcha.
    Am I trailer park trash? For ten years, I definitely was.
    Should I shame myself because I shamed myself? Are you freakin' kidding me?

    Sad, in a Sam Kinnison kind of way.

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    1. You are what you are and you should wear it proudly, so long as you're happy and healthy. If we were all the same and all looked the same, the world would be pretty damn boring.

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  41. I was raised to feel ashamed for my very existence. I'm 56 years old, and it's still part of my life. I really hate the photos of dogs who are supposed to look ashamed because they've done something to embarrass all of dogdom. For heaven't sake. They're dogs. Let them be dogs. Let me be me. I do the best I can at being me. Everybody just shut the fuck up. I enjoyed your post tremendously.

    Love,
    Janie

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    1. Yeah, aren't those dumb? They don't even know what's going on. Well, aside from the fact that mommy or daddy is really mad that they won't sit still for the picture. I assume that's where the guilty face comes from.

      Reminds me of this great comic.

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  42. Sometimes folks just need a nice little pat on the head...with a bowling ball!

    I for one call a spade a spade. I get in a fair amount of trouble, but no one can call me a hypocrite. Well, they can but I won't listen! LOL

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    1. That kind of attitude is why we like you. We get into our own fair of trouble for telling the truth, which seems like such a stupid thing to get mad at someone over. Pass the bowling ball. And the beer. We've got some heads to pat.

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  43. Digging the new layout! (which you probably changed weeks ago, but if you point that out, I'll be forced to call you out for you "absentee-shaming." So tread lightly.)

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    1. OH! Uh... we changed it just last night! Perfect timing that you swung on by to catch it. Nothing gets by you!

      (Please don't shame us. And welcome back!)

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  44. I think it started off with good intentions, even the specifics of it. So many people are bullied for weight (no matter what they weight is) and women are bullied for being sluts (a friend was called a slut/whore/tramp because she was raped). I think it started off as a great way to help build awareness and let people know it's okay to call out that shit.

    But somewhere it took a turn and now it's being used like "literally". It's literally the wrong definition and people literally don't know what the words that they are using literally mean. I may print out this blog post and tape it to people's faces.

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    1. I think that's the greatest compliment anyone could have ever given us. But tape isn't a very good way of making something stick to a human face. How about a stapler?

      And that's why it really grinds my gears when people act like they're getting bullied and victimized over the most ridiculous things (like seeing someone fit posting a picture and saying, "They're shaming me because I don't look like that and it makes me feel bad!" No, they're not). Real shaming is a single woman being called a slut by a group of men at a bar because she's there alone and wearing a short skirt, and then telling her she deserves to be raped. Real shaming is calling some poor kid who's 200 lbs "fatty" and making him feel like shit on a daily basis because his mom never taught him how to eat healthy. For people to act like someone posting a picture of themselves looking fit and happy is somehow comparable to these situations is every bit as mindnumbing as it is infuriating.

      Literally. It's literally infuriating. Speaking of which, if people misuse a word enough, the dictionary will just change its definition to accommodate those who don't understand it. It's literally terrifying.

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  45. Good post. There is way too much of this going on and so much is a matter of semantics.
    I've always been tactful but when asked a specific question/opinion I will give you the truth--not with a hammer but it's still the truth. If it disagrees with your opinion then remember you asked for the truth. I have a warning label (poster) in my office that says Don't ask for my opinion unless you want the truth. There is no growth or improvement without constructive criticism.

    BTW, congrats on your "you rock" award. Well deserved!

    Sia McKye Over Coffee

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    1. All of those are incredibly wise words, and that's how we try to handle things, too - we'll give you the truth, but we'll be polite and tactful about it. I always find it funny when people flip out after I give them constructive criticism on their writing. I mean, if all you wanted was a pat on the back, you should have told me up front. I wouldn't have even read the work, I would have just patted you on the shoulder and said, "Hey, good job, champ! You knocked this out of the park!" I mean, that's exactly what they wanted, right?

      And yes, thank you! We're honored to be one step closer to our dream of one day becoming literary rock stars.

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    2. LOLOLOL! I've had the same experience with crits. Hey, you want to hear how great you are then give it to your mom, lol! She always thinks you're wonderful when you write--or mine does. If you want to grow, give it to someone who will tell you the truth on what doesn't work. Huzzah on being literary rock stars!

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  46. Great post, guys! *jazz hands/finger snapping to avoid triggering someone with my clapping*

    I'm just concerned what the comedy of the future will be.

    Comedian: "What did the ketchup bottle say to the mayonnaise?"

    Audience: "What are you saying? Ketchup bottles and mayonnaise can only have platonic relationships? And where's mustard in this offensive portrayal? Of course mustard wouldn't be in the picture, he's probably off being a misogynistic patriarchal-figure to his nongender-specific, spicy brown offspring. Breeding more hate and intolerance of ketchup and mayonnaise. Well, I don't discriminate. My sandwiches are loaded with every topping because I'm a child of the world! Boo! Hiss!"

    I don't know where I'm going with this, but the Pokemon cartoon was spot-on.

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    1. I laughed really hard at this comment... and then felt immediately sad.

      JOKE OF THE FUTURE:
      Q: "What did one muffin say to the other muffin?"
      A: "Nothing, because neither of them gave expressed consent to engage in a mutual conversation and accosting someone verbally without first obtaining permission is bullying."

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  47. Well said. A little constructive criticism can help make you a better person.

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    1. Absolutely. If you say it right, the goal isn't to hurt you, it's to improve you. Some people just can't differentiate.

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  48. Too many comments to read, so I am sure this point has been made.

    I saw the roots of this back in the late 1980's, when my friend's kids were on a soccer team where they did not keep score on the game so the losing team would not feel like they lost.

    Of course, the kids knew what team won...they can all count. But that was my first exposure to the whole "everyone is a winner" mindset.

    Not that I think losing a soccer game makes one a loser....but you did lose that game. And not everyone is a good soccer player, not everyone has the body of a swimsuit model, not everyone has a Mensa IQ, and so on. Some of us are just normal everyday average people.

    In fact, on average, we are average people. That's why it's called average!

    The other side of shaming is bullying, which has been around forever, and while I do not condone it, it seems that the trend used to be to have kids work it out (teaches children to stand up for themselves if nothing else), and now the school and courts intervene. It would be nice to have a world without bullies, but what we're moving towadrs is a world with bullies and people totally incapable of sticking up for themselves (I'd say wimps, but I think that would be a hate crime as well as shaming).

    Sadly, this all happened on my generation's watch. We went from flower power, and giving peace a chance to the crap we've got today.

    I need medicinal marijuana just to cope with how lame my generation has become.

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    1. Why do you think Colorado is one big floating pot cloud? It's from the two of us just trying to survive daily life.

      (Just kidding. We don't partake)

      The bullying thing is spot on. I have a friend who has a 10 year old son. Recently, a kid was trying to pick on him and start a fight. He pushed him and started raising his hands, so my friend's son punched him in the nose and screamed "Leave me alone!" What happened as a result? My friend's son was suspended for "violent behavior", while the bully got nothing but a talking to. The lesson here: you can't stand up for yourself, and self defense is frowned upon. Apparently he should have just let the bully pummel him and abuse him, because their answer was "you should have found a teacher." You know, which is something you can totally do when someone's taking swings at you.

      What kind of stupid logic is that?

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    2. That happened to my daughter. Got in trouble for shoving some boys when they were the ones picking on her.
      Everything was always the way she looked at things. No one else was at fault.
      I am so glad she graduates in a couple weeks.

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  49. I think making jokes and digs at everyone should be encouraged because when you doing it you're by default admitting that it is wrong and total stereotypical bullshit and let's just have a good laugh at the expense of EVERYONE. Only when you can make black jokes , fat jokes and white jokes and it is okay can the society be truly developed because hey! if everyone's equal , then everyone can be made fun of without fear of shaming.

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    1. Yes, absolutely. The line of thinking shouldn't be "if you're a white person you should only be able to joke about white people" or "if you're a thin person you shouldn't be able to joke about fat people." That's stupid. If the intent isn't malicious, everybody should be able to joke about everybody. THAT is equality.

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  50. When did everyone become such big cry babies over everything. It's no wonder our kids are growing up little brats and feeling entitled to everything being handed to them. No one can make a joke because someone will take offense to it and get their panties in a bunch and write some long diatribe about how everything is all PC now and its not fair to this or that person. Good grief I want to go back in time and slap some people.

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    1. If it was legal to slap people, I'm pretty sure I already have a list a mile long of candidates. And isn't that funny, that for all of this PC bullshit, people are still assholes.

      "It's weird to me that we now live in a society where it's not illegal to be an asshole, but it's illegal to slap one." - Ronda Rousey

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  51. Ain't dat da twooth. People's opinions have also transformed into haters. You can't have an opinion anymore without being a hater. What's the world coming to these days? I think I should take up drinking, that way, I can have an opinion and not care whether I'm a hater or a shamer. I'll just be a drunk. LOL!

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    1. That's a brilliant idea. You can't fault the town drunks for just doing what they do best - yelling belligerently. We should try that out.

      "To alcohol! The cause - and solution - to all of life's problems!" - Homer Simpson

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  52. http://www.helpguide.org/articles/abuse/domestic-violence-and-abuse.htm
    One of such signs is actually putting someone down for their accomplishments.
    So, in essence, it is now socially acceptable to be abusive
    I am joining your hermit cave
    Case of beer in hand, of course
    ~ polishspring

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    1. But society said I made him do it, and he only did it because he loves me...

      Wow. Just... wow. That's every bit as mindblowing as it is terrifying. Methinks we're gonna have to stock up on a ton of beer before we seek out that hermit cave. After reading that, we're never leaving.

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  53. I apparently shamed a bunch of people for being idiots in the blog I just posted. Shame on me ;)

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    1. How dare you not be sensitive to their idiocy. They're geniuses in their own right. Like being brilliant at being idiots. Someone get them a medal for that. :)

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  54. Is that a Nintendo Gameboy? Sweet.

    This is why I don't bother taking part in society. Except for the part of society that sells pizza.

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    1. You're damn right. Still have mine. Why? Because it doesn't require an Internet connection, and you can play games without a million other people spamming a chat window with more bullshit like the above. Ah, sweet silence. And pizza.

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  55. Well said. I am so tired of walking on eggshells everywhere I go just so I don't offend everyone with - well, me, lol. I'm entitled to my own fat-chick, white girl opinions too!!

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    1. How dare you bring your white opinions around here.

      Sincerely,
      Two white guys

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  56. This might be my favourite post ever.

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    1. Scarlett! It's so good to see you again! And it's so nice of you not to blog shame us for not having been by in a while.

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  57. If we all followed Oprah's diet and exercise books, the world would be a much better place. I just checked on Google, and her endorsement is on at least five books. It's shameless really. One of your best posts, Bryan and Brandon!

    Julie

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    1. Ooh, let's not forget "Doctor" Oz and his amazing medical diet cures. Most people would have better luck getting medical advice from Wikipedia than from that clown.

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  58. What a shame that shame/shaming has become so shamefully misused. More often than not, people just need to mind their own damn business and stop fretting so much about the next guy and trying to police EVERYBODY through things like shaming. Then it turns into such a farce that you can't make a statement of fact without being accused (shamed) of doing something wrong (shaming). What the heck is wrong with people? Never mind, don't answer that I already know the answer.

    Unfortunately, it is a 'part of the plan', just another way to manipulate and control us all into exactly what 'they' want. It in itself is SHAMEFUL!

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    1. Yeah, and for all of that people policing, are we more polite and civilized as a society? No. If anything, we're lashing out at each other more often over small, trivial things and fighting (and sometimes literally killing each other) over the dumbest shit.

      And people wonder why I rarely leave the house.

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  59. Oh my gosh, ALL of this! I get so sick of all this politically correct crap. Great post!

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    1. Thanks! Sadly, though, I think the kind of butthurt people that need to read this post aren't coming anywhere near this type of website...

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  60. The world it getting politically correct frenzied! It drives me up the friggen wall too! Pretty soon no one will be able to give their opinion on ANYTHING! Wait. did I just shame the politically correct people? OMG... Great post.

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    1. If this kind of shit keeps up, us comedy writers are going to be out of jobs and performing at speakeasies... the last place on Earth you can make fun of people without everyone getting wildly offended.

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  61. I don't know what the word shame means anymore. Is it a type of ham?

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    1. It's an exotic cut of ham valued as a delicacy because of its ample amounts of rich, buttery fat. Thus the term "I'm shame eating again."

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  62. There was recently a whole big thing about slut-shaming, and I can't for the life of me recall what it was. Murg. I just remember it being so out of left field. An article that had nothing to do with slut-shaming. It made me slow blink. Words get put into play that everyone latches onto. Big issues memed into obscurity. #NotAllShamers

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    1. Did you just hashtag our blog? Now I'm gonna have to learn how to use the Tweeters and make a Twitty sentence like the kids do.

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  63. Yeah, but we can still do pet shaming, right? Cause that is super funny stuff!

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    1. I'm all in favor of lighthearted shaming that means making fun of something playfully. Like when my cat starts to puke, I usher her onto the wood floor (for easy cleanup), and then she runs right back to the carpet and pukes everywhere. Then just stares at me. Knowingly. That needs to be shamed.

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